It’s Not About You

it's not about you, man slumped over steering wheel

Whenever someone ignores us, criticizes us, deceives us or leaves us for someone or something else it hurts! It feels like a body blow, and often (I know I’ve been guilty of this) we feel the need to react by telling that person off. After all, how could they do this? ..Or, maybe we respond by sulking and wondering what we did to deserve this treatment. These kinds of negative interactions can be so paralyzing and stressful that they can totally derail us and keep us from being happy, productive and living our own lives.  Which is all so crazy when you think about it. You know why? Because the reality is that 9 times out of 10 it’s NOT about you! It never was. It’s about them! It’s about what they think they want. It’s about what’s going on in their lives. It’s about their issues, motives, agenda, or insecurities.

Sometimes we just need a little reminder that that’s all it is and then let it go. In the end, all you can do is be a good friend, spouse, sibling, coworker or neighbor. Give the best you have. It may not be enough for some. But that’s ok. It’s not really about you. It’s about them.

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